Tuesday, February 09, 2010
Miscarriage: Third, sad time around.
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Dear Ellen,
The first time i posted here was after my miscarriage at 11 weeks last june. The second time i posted here was when i was pregnant again and very scared. no i am here again.. tragically i miscarried again at 10 1/2/ weeks. I thought i knew what i was in for this time physically and emotionally. I was wrong. physically this time there was a lot more pain involved. and emotionally too. I aboslutly loathe my body for letting them die. last time there was so may tears. this time not so many. But the hollow feeling inside is so intense that if i fall into it i fear i won't get out. And this time round it is affecting my little girl. She is almost 2 she knows i am sad and doesn't understand why even though i don't cry in from of her. she is clingy and sometimes for no apparent reason bursts into tears. it is as though she is crying for me. I hate seeing the effect of this miscarriage on her. It is hard getting through the day sometimes.
Dear Katherine,
I am so sorry for your losses. My heart aches for you and I wish I could be there just to give you a hug.
You've got a lot of grieving on your plate and I understand why it's so, so difficult right now. One thing I gently suggest is to try not to blame yourself for any of your miscarriages. I know it's not easy. But, when we turn against ourselves, in this case, loathing your body, it makes the road to healing more difficult. Please don't get me wrong, I felt like a failure when I miscarried. I wondered why my body couldn't keep my baby alive. I think it's something many of us do. You're not alone in that, I just want you to think about the possiblity that your body didn't do anything 'wrong', nor did you. So often there just aren't any answers and we feel like we need them. When we don't get them, we turn against ourselves, and many times we turn against God, too. It's all in the search for reason...just give me a reason why. My mind used go there all the time.
If you really feel stuck, sometimes talking it out with someone you don't know helps. Actually, it can help a lot. Nothing takes the pain away, but sharing what you're feeling, tears and all, with someone who cares about you and what's in your best interest only, can be very cleansing. It can help put things into perspective over time and also helps guide you down the road to healing after miscarriage. I guess talking it out helps you through the darkness of grief and at least shows you there's some light- even if it seems very far away.
Your little one knows you. You're her mommy. I'm no doctor or professional "anyone", but kids sense things and your daughter must sense your sadness. I imagine there's a huge change right now in your overall personality...and why wouldn't there be? When we grieve, we do change. There's so many emotions- and sometimes we simply get overloaded.
I think you're probably on overload. I know I'd be if I were you.
You need and derserve healing time. It must be so difficult to find the time with your precious daughter needing you. I know you love her, but there has to be some "Katherine time" to heal. Time to cry, talk to God, let it out, come here if you want, breath deeply and realize that you'll get through this-
one...step...at...a...time.
And here you are again. I am so sorry you found your feet planted on a path that led you here, although I am grateful you found this place to vent. I am here for you. We are all here for each other. On those days when you just don't know which end is up, please know you can come here and at least 'write it out'. Writing does help purge your emotions, if you will. It helps put things into some sort of perspective. When we write, we often gain a better understanding of just what it is we're feeling.
I'll be keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope you can find some time, even if it's just a half-hour, just for you. Just for you to feel and heal and know you are cared for, loved, supported and heard.
Love, Light and Blessings,
Ellen
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Sunday, February 07, 2010
Miscarriage: When you don't know how you feel.
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I'm 24 and neither my boyfriend nor I would be able to financially support a child right now. I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant on New Years Eve. I was devastated. I kept it a secret. Two weeks later, my doctor confirmed a miscarriage. Within those two weeks, I lamented over my situation and I continued to hide my pregnancy from my boyfriend. Abortion had crossed my mind but at the same time I was certain I couldn't go through with something like that. So instead, I tried to mentally prepare myself for a pregnancy. But I tried to do it alone. I began to actually feel connected to "this". I still refuse to say "baby" when referring to anything I was holding onto.
After the miscarriage was confirmed, I felt relieved. I felt that I would no longer have to share my pregnancy as it would be over once I miscarried (wrong). That relief turned into guilt. I felt guilty for feeling relieved and for keeping such a huge secret to myself. And I felt sad. I had just started accepting it. I started embracing the changes I was enduring and would endure. I waited 2 weeks to expel the pregnancy to no avail. My pregnancy symptoms actually got more distinct throughout this time. My doctor suggested a D&C but the thought of surgery terrified me. I insisted on waiting. Eventually, the fear of an infection convinced me to get the surgery. This, too, I did alone.
The whole time, I kept this from my boyfriend. He would have absolutely been there for me through every step of the way. Initially, I held it in out of fear. Eventually, I held it in to protect him. I didn't want him dealing with anything I was. Instead, he was faced with a lifeless form of his girlfriend for a month...with no explanation as to why.
Now, after surgery (it went very well) and I can't stop crying. Everyday since it happened, I cry. I can't understand why I'm so upset that I lost something I wasn't prepared for in the first place. People keep insisting I "dodged a bullet". That's not how this feels. This feels terrible. I started bleeding more noticeably 3 days after surgery. It comes and goes--but when it comes, I lose my mind. Things seem manageable until I start bleeding. I feel the loss and then feel stupid for grieving the loss.
I finally came clean with my boyfriend and I insisted that I'm a terrible human being for hiding something like this from him. He doesn't see it this way. While he was upset that I felt I couldn't tell him, he is understanding and there for me (as I knew he would be). He's the one telling me it's okay to be sad. But WHY am I so sad? It seems contradictory to be sad. But it seems detestable not to be. My emotions are in disarray. Does this happen? Such profound sadness after an "unwanted" or "inconvenient" pregnancy? I feel terrible even using those words now. They feel filthy.
...I just needed to tell my story because I keep reading elsewhere about everyone's elation to find out they're pregnant and the subsequent devastation after a miscarriage. That's just not how it went for me...
Dear Rebekah,
I am sorry for your loss and for the broad spectrum of emotions you're feeling.
I think what's particularly confusing is trying to apply logic to your emotions. I do it too, and have done so in the past. It sounds like your brain is having a tough time wrapping itself around your crying, etc. Why are you sad? Why, when everything in your mind said you weren't ready for this pregancy-for having a baby-are you feeling guilty or sad? Why aren't you feeling the relief your mind, not your heart, tells you to feel?
Without intending to sound cliche, the heart and mind are very separate things and I believe you're feeling this deeply. Plus, you went through this entire experience alone. I'm guessing it's because at the time you felt it wasn't too big a deal and wanted to just get things done and move on. There is no right or wrong way to feel. In your case, you just weren't ready for a baby and if I were sitting beside you listening, I'd do just that. Listen. Then, I'd give you hug and say none of your feelings are wrong and please try to stop judging yourself.
I think your feelings of guilt come in here:
When you found out you were pregnant and subsequently miscarrying, you felt a self of relief. That's okay. You were afraid to have a baby. You felt ill prepared. So many do and those feelings are normal and they are yours. We are all so different. Please try to release the guilt. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
The day came when you had no choice but to have a D&C. You health was at risk and you could have ended up with a serious infection. So, you had the D&C- alone. I do wish you chose not to be alone, but you did and you have your reasons.
You held so much in, and when your feelings did a 180, you didn't know what to do. How could you explain the tears, the changes in your personality, etc., to your boyfriend when you never told him about your pregnancy, miscarriage and surgery? What a place to be in and I feel for you. You must have been so torn up emotionally. Not logically. Emotionally.
Finally, you got to a point where you felt it was necessary to tell your boyfriend what happened. He was and is there for you. That's a blessing and I'm glad he loves you the way he does.
We are not the islands we often think we are...so many of us think we can just get through life's tough times alone. For some, reaching out is a very difficult thing and that's what makes us all different. Like I said, there is no right or wrong.
As to the WHY of it all: Why do you cry now? Why do you feel guilty? I can only guess and say you went through the: 1. Shock of finding out you were pregnant alone. 2. You miscarried alone. 3. You had a D&C alone. 4. You kept things to yourself until you no longer could- alone again.
That's a heavy load, even when you don't think it should have been. The thinking part of you, your logic, told you this was all for the best and you should feel relieved. Your heart caught up to your logic and told you that you'd been through a loss, experienced fear, kept secrets and tried to gather the strength to get through it alone when you really needed some help.
You've opened up and told your boyfriend about everything. He's there. Now, you need time to just be you and heal- no secrets blocking the way. It really doesn't matter WHY you need to heal. What matters is that you do. Give yourself a break and just take things a day at a time. There's nothing wrong with you or your need to let your emotions run their course. You've got someone there who cares about you and your guard can be let down so you can heal.
Okay, you may ask... from what? You may say you didn't want the baby anyway. Rebekah, you may never know exactly why you feel sad, but please let yourself feel it. Please try to toss the notion that you're somehow a terrible person for feeling relieved when you miscarried. You're not terrible. You were afraid and at time, your miscarriage seemed more convenient than your pregnancy. Does that make you 'bad'? No. It means you were scared.
We all get scared.
If you're really having a tough time wrapping your brain around all of this, please know you can come here anytime. I'll listen. You're human, you have every right to feel whatever you do, and what's most important to me is that you take the steps you need every, single day towards healing.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, Light and Blessings to you,
Ellen
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Saturday, February 06, 2010
Miscarriage: "I feel like I'm so alone..."
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Dear Ellen
I found out I was pregnant about a month after my boyfriend proposed to me. He already has one daughter and at the time he said some very awful things after we found out we were having a baby. He told me that he would never love any child as much as he loves his daughter because she is his first born and he kept talking about things such as abortion and adoption. They were both an option for other people, not me.
I already loved my baby more than anything. I couldn't understand how he could be so mean. I have never in my life felt such an intense love for what was growing inside of me. I had plans for the baby and I practically has his whole life planned out in my mind. My boyfriend, after a while, just started to deal with the baby and he even began to like the idea of a baby around the house.
Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage around the end of my first trimester. It was the most devastating thing that has ever happened to me in my whole life. My boyfriend wasn't very supportive and when I think about it today I realise that I would be 7 months pregnant. I feel like I am so alone sometimes and I wish that someone would be able to talk to me.
Well, thank you for listening.
Dear Brittany,
I am deeply sorry for your loss and for what you went through with your fiance after discovering you were pregnant. That must have put a terrible strain on you and your relationship. I can not understand why he acted as he did. Perhaps fear. I don't know how to respond to his treatment towards you other than to say you deserved far better treatment.
You still do.
Then he came around and began liking the idea, maybe accepting is a better word, having a new baby with you.
But...this is about you and your healing; about feeling supported and not so alone.
Support from the ones we love is so important after a miscarriage. You lost your baby, not something 'pretend' or material. You loved this child and like you said, had so many hopes and dreams for him. Your fiance wasn't there to support you and I'm sorry for that. I hope there is a friend or family member you can turn to.
When the ones we love don't know how to be there for us, it leaves us feeling more alone.
Please let me assure you, you are not. But, it doesn't change the fact that you feel that way at home. I hope you know I care very much about how you're doing, as do the others who have walked the painful road after miscarriage. We really do care about and for each other, and that's a kind of support that's born out of experiencing a loss like miscarriage and banding together to share what's in our hearts.
You need time for you and deserve it. Time to feel, cry, heal. Holding your feelings in because your fiance just doesn't 'get it' won't do you any good. Actually, I think it'll make you feel sadder. I know it did with me. My ex-husband just didn't know how to wrap his brain around our loss, and I felt like it was my loss alone- even though it was our baby.
In order to heal we must grieve first. It's the part of life that rips the rug from under our feet. It's the part that leaves us questioning so many things: ourselves, life, why things like this happen, even God. Our faith often feels tested after such a loss. I went through it. I believed in God but wondered why He let my miscarriage happen. It wasn't until many years later and a whole lot of healing that I knew my purpose- or part of it.
It was so I could be here for you. We all have different paths and you will, over time, begin to feel like 'you' again. Please hang on to that and believe it to be true. The smiles will outweigh your tears once again, but right now, you're grieving and it's never, ever easy.
You can always come here to vent. If you're really feeling stuck, or just need someone to talk to, please look into seeing a counselor. You'll know if it's the right thing for you. I needed help, and got it- even though it was a couple of years after my miscarriage. What started as marriage counseling ended up being one on one counseling for me as my ex didn't want to be there anyway.
Over the years I've grown and healed. I've turned to my faith, my spirituality and it has helped get me through those very dark days. Last year, I had a memorial for my son and it was some seventeen years after I'd miscarried. The thing is, I needed closure and reading him a letter and sending a balloon off into the sky with the words, "I Love You" written upon it helped me gain closure. You may want to think about doing something- and trust in what your heart tells you is right for you.
What you're feeling is sadly normal and my heart goes out to you. If you ever need someone to just listen, know I am here.
We all are.
Love, Light and Blessings,
Ellen
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Thursday, February 04, 2010
Miscarriage: So many plans...now gone.
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I know how you feel. I am 36..finally found someone I really care about and was starting a great relationship. He has 2 kids, and definately doesn't want more. I was ok with that... at least I thought so. I found out I was pregnant just after Christmas, and was scared to tell him. He was great about it.. we went in for genetic counseling for our age, and started to make plans. 30 days later I got lab work that showed I was miscarrying... after we had seen a heart flutter. I had a D & C yesterday... and feel like I have no idea what to do next. Do we keep making plans together? Do we go back to "just dating" when we seem to have moved past that due to the pregnancy?
We had made so many plans, and now they are all gone...
Dear Jenni,
I am so sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like to have a 'surprise' pregnancy. That's what happened to me. You finally get used to the idea and have fallen in love with your baby and then it's like the rug's been ripped out from under your feet. I have been there and feel for you with all I am.
You are grieving the loss of your baby, and that takes some time. It's something none of us ever want to go through, yet here we are talking about it. Healing, which isn't forgetting, rather it's getting to a point where you feel you've crossed over a very steep and rocky mountain, is something you take day by day. Loving support is what you need, along with allowing yourself to feel.
I hope your partner stays by your side. Actually, you both need support and I pray you find it in each other, in your faith and with some help if you find you need it.
When thinking about your relationship, it sounds like you really can't go backwards to 'just dating'. Your pregnancy may have pushed things along a bit in terms of planning, but it sounds to me like the two of you love each other and were going to love your baby together. I don't know how you could step back because that line, the one we really can't put our finger on but it transforms 'dating' into a 'relationship'- has been crossed.
I know you're hurting and confused. Your partner probably feels the same. One day at a time together is better than one day at at time alone. If you already know how you feel about each other, just go with it. Let your emotions come out so you can heal. This is something you need for YOU, and if he really loves you, he'll be there- whether you've been together for six months or fifteen years. Love is love. Support is support. Your feelings for each other, in my opinion, are what they always were. Sadly, you have the loss of your baby to heal from and I pray you can weather this storm together.
As time passes, you may want to do something in memory of your little one. Maybe plant a tree- you and your partner together. You'll know if this is right for you if you feel it in your gut. There is no right or wrong here. It's a matter of going with what your heart tells you.
The plans, dreams and wishes you and your partner had for your baby were real. Your baby was real. Your loss is real and you need some time to get through this. Take your time, please know you are loved, and when you're having one of those days when you just don't know which way is up, you are always welcome here to vent. Sometimes, letting it out can help so much. Just freeing your mind, body and spirit and expressing what's deep inside can be so cleansing....and healing.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayer. Please remember, one day at a time.
Love, Light, and Blessings,
Ellen
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Miscarriage: Supporting Each Other.
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Ellen,
I just wanted to say thank you for your encouraging words! I know that not only does it mean alot to me but to all of the other women who let their guards down and vent this out on your site. May God continue to be by your side always. Thank you again!
Dear Christina,
You are more than welcome and I feel so blessed to have this website and I know God helps me out every single day. We have all formed a very special bond of loving support, and your words of encouragement do my heart so much good.
Love, Light and Blessings to you, and God Bless-
Ellen
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Wednesday, February 03, 2010
Miscarriage: "Am I ever going to get over this?"
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Dear Ellen,
I have been wanting to write to you and everyone here for a while - but feel I will only be saying the same things over again. 4 weeks and 5 days I should be meeting my little boy, but I wont because he has been ripped away from me. The pain is running deep and I just want to crawl in a hole and forget I exist. I have wanted to end my life, runaway, anything to get away from the pain I am feeling. I have felt so bad that I wrote everyone letters to say good bye, because I couldn't stand the pain anymore. The due date is a reminder of what I wont have. Due date feels like I have been waiting for 7 months for a funeral. I am trying so hard to hold on here - its getting harder to reach out to people and I feel more alone.
Sometimes I look at my daughter which causes me more pain -I realise what I am missing out on.
Am I ever going to get over this
Euniex
Dear Eunie,
I know the pain you're in, and you know how sorry I am for your loss- I hope you do.
Grief is depressing- and I am worried you have fallen into a depression. The fact that I am not a doctor means this is only my opinion as a friend. If you and I were sitting next to each other and you told me the things you wrote here, I'd give you a big hug after listening and then ask you to talk to someone. When I say someone, I mean a professional counselor, grief counselor, your doctor. My heart aches for you and I can feel the pain through your words.
I can share with you, from personal experience, that when the people, places or things that once brought you joy no longer do, more than likely depression is at hand. I had a friend who was very depressed, and nothing could pull her out except for herself- with some help. It took time, but all healing takes time. I say this to you because I care deeply about you and I've read your posts before. As the anniversary of your due date approaches, it sounds like you're sinking deeper. I think you even said that. I know you love your daughter very much, but right now even she, your beautiful, innocent daughter is being viewed through eyes so full of pain and grief you don't feel the joy she brings to your life. That's not to say you don't care. Of course you do. But, she's got to be feeling the energy of all your pain and part of it's being channeled to her. Not on purpose, but you can't help but feel someone else's energy. It's like this: You see your best friend and before she even opens her mouth, you know something is wrong. You can feel it. You can see it on her face. You can sense it in your gut.
Your little girl is no different. You're her Mommy and I believe she feels your pain.
I know healing is difficult. Grieving stinks. Losing someone we love is terrible. Nobody ever wants to experience these inherent parts of life. Yet, we all do. We all suffer losses and I am not minimizing your loss. Not at all. However, you are stuck- and that's okay. Embrace your 'stuck self'-please try to understand and accept that you need some help getting through this time right now. It's not a bad thing...it's a healthy thing for you, for your family. Sometimes the familiar, even if it's scary and depressing, becomes our comfort zone. We get so used to feeling sad & depressed that we don't even know how to come out of it. We don't see that there's help. Often, we are seeing the world through the skewed vision depression gives us, and when that happens, asking for help can be the last thing on our mind.
Eunie, I know you don't want to feel like this, and it's more scary to stay where you are than to embrace, as best you can, change through seeking help. It's a big step, but I believe with all my being it's a step you can take. I also believe that you will look back upon this terrible time through eyes that have healed. Healing does not mean you'll forget your baby, your loss. God, no. It means you'll arrive at a place where you will be able to move forward with your life. Enjoy those beautiful moments again. Relish in the smile of your beautiful daughter. Appreciate who you are as a woman. You are more than your grief- you are a beautiful, spiritual being who needs a little help right now, and that's why I'm here, and why there are those special people who are put on this earth to help us through the rough times.
I hope my words did not offend you in any way. I'm simply reaching out to you and asking you to consider seeing a counselor, finding a grief support group or talking to your doctor.
There is hope. There is healing. You will find yourself again and I'm with you in spirit every step of the way.
Love, Light and Healing to you,
Ellen
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Tuesday, February 02, 2010
Miscarriage: "I feel like I've been through hell!"
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Hi Ellen,
I just found your site and realized by reading the comments that what I am going through is probably normal. I was worried that I was going through a breakdown, not sure why, but reading the comments in your site made me realize what was wrong. I am 44 years old and didn't get married until I was 42. After fertility treatments, I got pregnant last November and miscarried 8 weeks later. We had heard the heartbeat and then went the next week and there was no heartbeat. It was devastating, but after two rounds of IVF i got pregnant again this past August and the miscarried after 9 weeks. This time, everything started out fine but then something went wrong and it was 9 long weeks of waiting until i miscarried. I felt like I have had been through hell!! It seems like no one knows what to say to me and it seems like people don't undertand the devastating affects of miscarriages. My baby would have been born on March 21 and I think this is why I am going through a lot of depression and anxiety right now. Too make matters worse, since I am 44, not sure how I want to proceed either with donor egg or adoption. I feel stuck and like I am losing my mind. I don't understand why people are more sympathetic to people who go through breakups, then people who have miscarriages. I feel for both. Anyway, it was nice to see your site and read others who feel the same way. Thank you for all of us!!
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Sunday, January 31, 2010
Miscarriage: I Never Held You book update.
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I am very excited about the second edition of I Never Held You- Miscarriage, Grief, Healing and Recovery. The cover is beautiful, and conveys the same message of hope and healing after miscarriage the first one did, but in a different way. Many thanks to the cover art department for their hard work. They literally created 'art' from my mere words. When I described what message I'd like the new cover of I Never Held You to convey, i.e., what kind of images I envisioned, etc., I never dreamed they would come up with exactly what my mind & spirit were feeling. Hope, healing, angels, God, faith, comfort and more. Amazing work! Thank you to the entire team at CreateSpace & Amazon.com. You can still order my book at Amazon.com, (where it's always been), and as soon as it's released, it'll be shipped right to you. The link to my author page is: http://www.amazon.com/Ellen-M.-DuBois/e/B002BLP1U0/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1
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God Bless, and I am deeply sorry for your loss. Please keep the faith and know you are not alone.
Ellen
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Friday, December 18, 2009
A Prayer For Miscarried Babies & Their Mothers
Dear God, Click here to share your comments, read hundreds of comments, or scroll down for useful information, and more. Thank you & God Bless. Ellen Purchase I Never Held You: A book about miscarriage, healing, and recovery, by clicking here. Feel relaxed, refreshed, calm...feel the healing take place inside with The Diamond Alignment Experience. I have tried this. It's an amazing and beautiful 6 minute experience.
Please hold my unborn child in your ever-loving embrace.
Please let my child know that my love can't be erased.
Please bless me on this earth and help to ease the pain.
Please plant a seed within my baby's heart of sunshine, not of rain.
Please help the days get easier and the nights go quickly by.
Please hold my hand when I can't do anything- but cry.
Please increase my faith so I believe my baby is with You.
Please forgive me when my sadness makes me come completely unglued.
Please let my baby know that there'll always be a place-
within my heart, just for my baby, full of Divine Grace.
And, when You call me Home to Your Kingdom up above-
Please let me hold the baby-
I never held...
but, always loved.
Amen.
Ellen DuBois
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Monday, December 07, 2009
Miscarriage, Infant Loss Memorial Jewelry, Thoughtful Gifts for Those who have Miscarried
I wear a stunning miscarriage remembrance/awareness pendant and a sterling silver heart remembrance necklace with baby footprints stamped on it made lovingly by MomsTears and My Forever Child. I love and treasure them. Thank YOU Moms Tears and My Forever Child so much.
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Friday, November 06, 2009
Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com- Support for those who have miscarried.
MiscarriageHelp.com: Your Host, Ellen M. DuBois. Welcome to MiscarriageHelp.com. I'm Ellen M. DuBois, author of I Never Held You, a book about miscarriage, healing and recovery, and Host of MiscarriageHelp.com. Having experienced a miscarriage myself, I know first-hand the pain, isolation and often dismissive attitudes which accompany miscarriage. I am here to do my part in bringing miscarriage support and awareness to light. We are all supporting each other and I am so sorry for your loss. God Bless, Ellen Click here to share your comments, read hundreds of comments, or scroll down for useful information, and more. Thank you & God Bless. Ellen Purchase I Never Held You: A book about miscarriage, healing, and recovery, by clicking here. Feel relaxed, refreshed, calm...feel the healing take place inside with The Diamond Alignment Experience. I have tried this. It's an amazing and beautiful 6 minute experience. Click here to share your comments, read hundreds of comments, or scroll down for useful information, and more. Thank you & God Bless. Ellen Purchase I Never Held You: A book about miscarriage, healing, and recovery, by clicking here.
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Tuesday, December 11, 2007
MiscarriageHelp.com- Comments 2008 & 2009
Miscarriage: A survey for women who have miscarried. Miscarriage: Amy Pegram- Raleigh Infertility & Miscarriage Examiner. Please visit Amy Pegram- Raleigh Infertility & Miscarriage Examiner Click here to share your comments, read hundreds of comments, or scroll down for useful information, and more. Thank you & God Bless. Ellen Purchase I Never Held You: A book about miscarriage, healing, and recovery, by clicking here. Feel relaxed, refreshed, calm...feel the healing take place inside with The Diamond Alignment Experience. I have tried this. It's an amazing and beautiful 6 minute experience.
Research Opportunity:
Everyone has a unique experience with miscarriage and many find help and
support through groups like this one. Unfortunately, little is known about
women's experiences of support and how this may affect responses to
miscarriage, and so I invite you to participate in my dissertation research
study examining women’s experiences following a miscarriage. Although there
is no direct benefit to you, survey results may help healthcare providers
better understand and meet the needs of women following miscarriage. This
online survey takes approximately 15-20 minutes and is open to women who
have miscarried a wanted pregnancy in the previous 6 months who are 18 years
of age or older, living in the United States, and involved in a relationship
with a significant other. Participants are eligible for a raffle for a $50
American Express gift certificate. For more information, please don't
hesitate to contact me.
Lisa Rosenzweig, Teachers College, lsr2106@columbia.edu
https://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=VCaiTA9Wo6w60W8HA0QxSA_3d_3d
"Amy Pegram is a Raleigh native who has dealt with both infertility and miscarriage. She is eager to share her insight and experience with others going through these challenges."
She has written many helpful articles on miscarriage and infertility. Recently, she wrote about my book and this site, MiscarriageHelp.com.
Thank you to Amy.
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Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Miscarriage Comments 2007 & 2008
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Saturday, March 18, 2006
Miscarriage Comments from 2006 & Meet Dr. Backman
Click here to share your comments, read hundreds of comments, or scroll down for useful information, and more. Thank you & God Bless. Ellen
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New book: Bringing Your Soul To Light- By: Dr. Linda Backman
MEET DR. LINDA BACKMAN. I would like you all to meet Dr. Linda Backman, Psychologist, Grief Counselor & Mom whose contributions to I Never Held You carry you through the steps of grief and aid you in better understanding yourself. Click here for more information on Dr. Backman. Dr. Linda Backman: Ed.D., Licensed Psychologist, Grief Counselor, Lecturer and an amazing woman. I owe her many, many thanks and cannot express how much she added to I Never Held You and to this website.
"Linda R. Backman, Ed.D., Licensed Psychologist, has been in private practice for more than twenty-five years. Linda's degrees come from the University of Oregon, University of North Carolina, and Northern Arizona University. In addition, Linda has received training in numerous traditional and non-traditional techniques including hypnotherapy, Life Between Lives Spiritual Regression Therapy, past life regression therapy, and shamanic soul retrieval. Linda has made presentations in her local community and national meetings/seminars on numerous issues. Linda has hosted a radio talk show, Healing Perspectives. Guests on this program focused on both traditional and non-traditional healing of the mind, body, and spirit. Send an email to Dr. Linda Backman: LRBackman@aol.com Please click on the read more link to learn more about Dr. Linda Backman. Click here to visit Dr. Linda Backman's Website Please visit! Susun Weed's Wise Woman Centre-Herbal medicine and spirit healing for women looking for alternative health Feel relaxed, refreshed, calm...feel the healing take place inside with The Diamond Alignment Experience. I have tried this. It's an amazing and beautiful 6 minute experience. http://www.october15th.com- Remembering Our Babies was created to provide support, education and awareness for those who are suffering or may know someone who has suffered a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, a still birth, or the loss of an infant. We hope that we can help you by giving you and all of the other parents, grandparents, siblings, relatives, and friends a special day of remembrance. This special day of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance is October 15th of every year. http://www.rememberingourbabies.net To read the miscarriage comments from 2006, please click HERE. Thank you and God Bless. Talk to doctors live in the fields of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Psychology, Grief, Depression and more (This is my parents CD and I'm posting it here because they've always been there to support me, and I am supporting them always...) Together We Can Heal CD: Sponsored by Pikes Peak Hospice, this sensitive recording specifically addresses the difficult issues surrounding the loss of a loved one. The lyrics of these songs communicate and empathize with the wide range of emotions experienced when grieving. The listener may find this recording to be a sensitive healing companion that can penetrate the barriers of despair and loneliness. Read hundreds of miscarriage comments and/or post your own.Click here
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